Life is so funny because you’re going about your day, you’re doing your thing, everything is fine…and then you write down the date and burst into tears. I explore how the brain functions with grief and how it actually relates to manifesting, YES! Here is the link to my blog post about it for more information: https://manifestitonline.com/2019/10/18/it-sneaks-up-on-you-but-work-through-it-anyway/ Tag me on IG and let me know your thoughts! @journalgirljaclyn https://www.instagram.com/journalgirljaclyn
Life is so funny because you’re going about your day, you’re doing your thing, everything is fine…and then you write down the date and burst into tears.
I lost my dad to brain cancer on this day 7 years ago. Grief is an interesting process mixed between your conscious and subconscious triggering of events that flood your memories. How much time is enough time in order to stop these triggers? According to Dr. Lisa M. Shulman, professor of neurology at the University of Maryland and author of “Before and After Loss: A Neurologist’s Perspective on Loss, Grief, and Our Brain”:
Recovery depends upon gradually reconnecting with suppressed memories- the emotions and memories that we’re not ready to face. Disturbing dreams by night and intrusive thoughts by day are evidence of traumatic memories that are buried in the subconscious, and were never properly integrated with past memories and emotions.
Reconnecting the Memories
I find this interesting because with the Law of Attraction I teach souls to reconnect memories to what they are desiring. For example, take your favorite scent and remember a fond memory from it while at the same time holding cash-money in order to imprint an alternate memory. The process of grief can also be performed through the same methods as the process of manifesting. Dr. Shulman advises a few coping mechanisms to transform grief:
To move forward, we need to find tools that will help us reconnect with suppressed memories. Equally important is the need to find activities that are diverting to refresh the mind. Tools for re-connection may include journaling, faith-based practices, meditation, and seeing a counselor. Keeping a dream journal may gradually uncover repetitive themes. Mysterious at first- over time the symbols in our dreams begin to reveal themselves. For refreshment, try creative practices (art, music, dance) and the healing powers of the outdoors.
The Connection Transformation
Obviously, I’m a huge fan of what I call Mastering Manifesting journaling. In addition, I meditate for a few minutes each night before falling asleep. Our brain is a 24/7 filtering system and we need to allow ourselves to “reboot” it often in order to empty the “cache files”. If we don’t give ourselves permission to do so through activities such as meditation, mindset journaling, painting, coloring, etc., everything in your subconscious mind will build up like the fizz in a soda bottle after it has been shaken a few times and the cap flies off from the tension of the carbonated pressure.
Have a beautiful weekend.
Hey Sensational Soul,
This week has been a very challenging week for me. I know we are all not meant to be in the physical form for forever. Regardless, it still doesn’t make it easy when beautiful souls transition on this planet. I am so thankful and grateful for all the time I did have with the amazing woman I am currently grieving.
In between tears this week my anxiety, my worry, and my pain are still in the forefront.
But you know what? This IS okay. Feel the feelings and embrace the pain because you ARE allowed to do so. This does not mean you are falling off your soul’s path in manifesting your life’s goals and desires. You ARE allowed to acknowledge and feel whatever you need to feel in order to release your thoughts and feelings. Let them visit, cry it out if it helps you to feel better, and ALLOW them to pass through you.
You are allowed to experience the cleansing process, so feel it and embrace it because you are still manifesting your dreams.
Release. Let go. Embrace this process because it helps you to get back into your alignment more easily. Understand that all of your thoughts and feelings you experience during difficult moments in your life is natural. This doesn’t mean you are not manifesting everything you want into your life.
You ARE manifesting your dreams as long as you don’t allow the cleansing process to get stuck in the rinse and spin cycle. We sometimes experience guilt and shame in allowing ourselves to “move on” in our lives.
But, remember, you get to decide and choose what you want to believe and how you want to take actions in your life when faced with uncomfortable situations. I’m not saying it should be easy during these times, what I’m saying is you are here right now for a reason, and you ARE allowed to follow your soul’s calling.
Don’t punish yourself and don’t think all the bad things only happen to you. Everyone, even your favorite inspirational person, experiences hard times.
For example, my most favorite inspirational person is Mr. Bruce Springsteen. He has battled depression and anxiety his entire life. However, he STILL touches people with his messages about how important it is to live through love and we are all deserving to be treated as equals in this world. And you know what? His raw honesty about his struggles is what has souls (like me) respect and appreciate him even more so because we can relate to his struggles. I, too, have had to deal with my depression and anxiety my entire life.
But, you still have a choice in how you choose to respond to life’s events.
Law of attraction states that like attracts like, but it doesn’t necessarily mean its operations are from 1 second to 1 second in its boomerang effect. No way. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. You ARE doing a great job. The boomerang effect is a result of what you choose to focus on the majority of the time.
So relax, acknowledge your feelings when you are experiencing something challenging in your life, but DO allow them to pass and focus on that fact that it WILL pass. It doesn’t mean you should feel guilt or shame in allowing them to pass. It doesn’t mean you are forgetting the experience or the person either.
As Mr. Springsteen often emphasizes, live your life through the eyes of love because you are allowed to live your life to your fullest potential.
And you know what? You ARE allowed to do so. Be gentle with yourself, you ARE still manifesting your life’s goals and dreams. Focus on how thankful you are to have everything you currently have in your physical realm. And during these difficult moments, lean INTO your faith in the Universe that you ARE receiving your manifestations. Trust the process, trust that you are supposed to be in this moment in the present, and trust that your manifestations ARE coming to you. Relax, don’t worry about the “how” or the “when”, just believe and KNOW that they are coming to you.
You have a gift in this world and you ARE allowed to share it with others through love and abundance of positive vibrations. Keep going, keep moving towards your dreams, and honor everything you have experienced along the way because it was meant to happen to help you expand as a soul in sharing your gifts to the rest of the world.
And most importantly, give yourself permission to do so. You’ve got this.
Change Your Mindset & You Change Your Life,
Journal Girl Jaclyn
This blog post may not be the best article you read, nor may it be one that will stay within your memory after today; but, I must be candid for a few minutes.
Depression is a serious disease. I should know because without my medication I would be in it all over again. My entire business is around helping other souls with their mindset and their mindset beliefs. My purpose and message to the Universe is to help others manifest whatever it is they truly desire into their lives. My focus and passion is to help any and every soul I can help to live in true, authentic happiness. And today I sort of feel like a fraud after the news of Anthony Bourdain. He was a rare gem in this world, not one to shy away from being 100% honest, even if it made you cringe a little sometimes. I feel defeated in an odd way because I can understand how he must have been feeling. Here I am telling souls day after day that they can successfully shift their mindset, and maybe people who follow me never even knew what I was going through, myself.
However, I am proof that you CAN get better. 9 years ago I tried to take my own life. I remember that night so clearly. I remember bawling in the fetal position on the bathroom floor of my apartment for hours. I remember my inner demons telling me it “can’t get better”. I remember taking a massive amount of prescription pills and trying to slit my wrists to the music of Elton John’s “Someone Saved My Life Tonight”. Little did I know that song was going to play a more pivotal role leading to my own survival.
I was in a really bad relationship with a narcissist for about 2 years. I am an empath, meaning I absorb a lot of people’s energies around me. No matter how hard I try to surround myself with a clear, protective bubble, people’s energies can really soak into me. I remember how my attempt at suicide didn’t work, I felt awful the next day. I was so far down the depression hole at the time that I didn’t feel awful out of guilt- no way. I was so far “gone”. I felt awful because the night before I had sent my “goodbye” emails and there I was still (undeservingly ) breathing the next day. I remember the narcissist telling me, “you only did this to get attention”, when in actuality I did it because I was trying to escape from him, from life, from myself.
So why didn’t it work 9 years ago when I attempted? I realized a few months later everything really does happen for a reason. I truly believe I had to hit “rock bottom” in order to understand what I was actually going through at 26 years old. At the time, when I was in my relationship with the narcissist, I didn’t even know what a “narcissist” was until after I attempted to end it all and shortly after decided to go to cognitive therapy. If I had known that my inner demons were so powerfully volatile, and that there IS actually a light at the end of the tunnel, I may not have tried to so hard to say “goodbye” on that strange night. If I had known and understood the complexities of the brain and outside influences (such as toxic relationships with a narcissist), I may not have had such a strong urge to end it all.
I truly believe what I went through prepared me for what I am now doing 9 years later at 35 years old: teaching other souls in this world to KEEP GOING. Everything stems from our mindset. The mind can be so restless, but it doesn’t have to control you. And while depression feels 1000% real within ourselves, there truly IS another direction we can start mentally moving towards in order to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Leaving our earth is not the ONLY option. It’s not easy, but it’s definitely doable.
If you or anyone you know is suffering from depression, I strongly urge going to cognitive therapy. This type of therapy is actually what saved my life the next night, and every night since then until I was fully healed. While I do not hold a PhD in psychology, I do what I can as a mentor to help people shift their mindset to the best of their abilities. It is time to be OPEN and HONEST about depression and mental illness. There is NOTHING wrong with having a mental illness. And it does NOT have to control you and your life. You CAN live in authentic happiness with the proper guidance and support system surrounding you. And it can start today, right now.
Do not give up. Keep going. You are NOT alone. It is perfectly OKAY to seek help. And it is perfectly OKAY to be honest and REAL in this world. Each and every single one of us is a faceted gem that help to shape this world we live in. And you are such a rarity in this Universe. You ARE needed here, with us.
Journal Girl Jaclyn
Please call, you are not alone in this Universe. The national suicide prevention hotline TRULY helps you: 1-800-273-TALK. You can also text HOME to 741741 for free in the US.